Why “Giving Up” is the Best New Year’s Resolution I Can Make

2016 beat me up.

I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. In a year full of terrorism, an embarrassment of an election, and endless celebrity deaths (I’m still not over Bowie 😭), it seems as though we haven’t been able to catch our breath and have just been forced to try and doggie paddle through this endless ocean of shit. This year has been hard and I’ve been pressed to learn more about myself than I’ve ever even wanted to. But I definitely think what has made this year particularly exhausting is the current global phenomena to be so affected. Which is NOT a bad thing.. you should feel and have opinions and be moved… but when you take everything that happens in the world as a personal vendetta against your own life, well, you’re going to have rough go. Which is why I’m only making one New Year’s resolution for 2017. I’m giving up.

Now when I say I’m giving up, I don’t mean that I’ll be parked on the couch watching reality TV with no worries or cares in the world (except for nights when Teen Mom is on, heh). What I am saying is that I’m giving up any expectations I have for my life or the world I live in. This doesn’t mean that I won’t do everything I can to live my own best life, but I will accept that I cannot control everything. Shit happens. Really bad shit happens. And it should make you feel things and those things that you feel should change your life. But you can’t take it too personally. If you are constantly living a life full of expectation and comparison and searching for what it all means.. then when are you actually living?

If we would have been all consumed with the very real pain and heartache of 2016 then we may have missed the Chicago Cubs winning the world series after 108 years, or Patagonia donating all their Black Friday sales to environmental betterment, or dentists providing free care to veterans again, or the volunteers in India planting over 50 million trees in 24 hours, or the two brothers that can now finally see color due to specially-designed glasses, or California powering over 6 million homes with solar power, or the Afghan teacher delivering books to underprivleaged schools on his bike, or the new Harry Potter book, OR POKEMON GO! Or any other wonderful moment that you may not have let yourself properly enjoy due to not being able to give up and let go.

Giving up doesn’t make you complacent and it doesn’t make you weak. It just opens up a door to let you relax and take the world in exactly as it is. It’s messy and sad and sweet and angry and confusing but try not to over complicate it. To quote my favorite movie: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you might miss it” – Ferris Bueller (aka man of my dreams 😍😍😍).

So this New Year’s, do yourself a favor. Give up any expectations you have for 2017 and just try to be pleasantly surprised by how much beauty there can be in the world when you’re not constantly trying to control it.

Oh, and quit smoking. That shit can kill you.

 

 

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